8.05.2006

Bored Mom


Have you heard about the "bored mom"?

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Here is a mom who finds her kids boring. She does not enjoy being with them, and they know it.
It makes me sad. Angry at first, but mostly sad. Just from my own experience of being a mother of 4 children, I feel that she is surely missing out on joy that can come from no other source. I feel her children are missing out on the love, joy, and security that can also come from no other source.
I'm pondering the reasons for the difference in our mothering attitudes. Is it innate? Is it the experiences we have each had with our own mother? Is it a choice of selfishness vs. selflessness? Whatever it is, I am glad that I have chosen to make mothering my priority. My life has been enriched in ways I can't explain. There is a deep sense of fulfillment and peace in choosing to view my "job" as one of extreme importance. I am raising the future. I am giving them of myself so that they will be taught well, but also so that they will always know that they are understood. They are loved and supported. That there is someone in their corner ALWAYS. Isn't that feeling of being cherished vital in a world like ours? Don't my children deserve to have a solid foundation in this craziness that surrounds them? Don't all children?

Every single night I have the pleasure of tucking my kids in. It's not always easy to drag myself away from what I am doing to go from bed to bed, singing each one their favorite lullaby. With 4 kids, this ritual takes my time. But after kissing each one of them, the air fills with back and forth "I love you's!" And it never fails as I walk down the darkened stairs, at least one of them always shouts , "You're the best mom in the universe!". That isn't why I do it, but it's things like that that keep me going. I know as they go into the teen years, I won't be hearing those beloved words like I do now. But that in no way discourages me. I will never regret the time, sweat, tears, and heartache that go with being a mom. NEVER.

6 comments:

Jessica said...

When she says that kids are boring, and moms at school are boring, I think everything having to do with giving to others must be boring for her? It makes me sad that she hasn't reached the depth of the only things that do bring true happiness. It's almost like she's scrambling to find it but totally missing it. And excitement is right in front of her when she walks into her home, if she could only see it. Sure there are mundane things about every job, but every job doesn't give you that little spark of joy inside that brings a smile and eternal memories to you and your child.

Toni Cavallini said...

I'm so glad that I have great role models like you in my life! If boring is what it's all about, then I'm looking forward to!

Anonymous said...

I love you, Shelli. I thank heaven each day that your dad and I had you and three other amazing children that continue to add so much to our lives and hopefully visa versa....not to mention the 12 most wonderful grandchildren in the world!
(from a very lucky and rarely bored mom/grandma)

Anonymous said...

I love you, Shelli! Dad and I thank heaven that we had you and 3 other amazing children. Some people just don't get it, or perhaps they never had it themselves. Sad. Love is the answer, and kids teach us what that means in so many ways. We miss tucking our little ones into bed, but having grown children in our lives is so amazing and wonderful...not to mention our 12 incredible and never boring grandchildren!
From one very busy, but loving it, mom/grandma

Anonymous said...

I love you, Shelli! Dad and I thank heaven that we had you and 3 other amazing children. Some people just don't get it, or perhaps they never had it themselves. Sad. Love is the answer, and kids teach us what that means in so many ways. We miss tucking our little ones into bed, but having grown children in our lives is so amazing and wonderful...not to mention our 12 incredible and never boring grandchildren!
From one very busy, but loving it, mom/grandma

Anonymous said...

I love you, Shelli! Dad and I thank heaven that we had you and 3 other amazing children. Some people just don't get it, or perhaps they never had it themselves. Sad. Love is the answer, and kids teach us what that means in so many ways. We miss tucking our little ones into bed, but having grown children in our lives is so amazing and wonderful...not to mention our 12 incredible and never boring grandchildren!
From one very busy, but loving it, mom/grandma